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September 03 60 is the new 18There is one problem with living until you are 125. Who wants to be married for a hundred years?
Suddenly, everybody’s interested in old people, as if we’re an alien life form. Perhaps because there are loads more of us, hanging on for longer. What do we do all the time? What do we think? Can we hear? Can we see? Speak? Eat? Do we have sex and normal bodily functions?
When marriage was first invented, death tended to part people fairly quickly. One barely had time to get browned off. Now we have more time to get fed up, and we won’t put up with as much. We are a tougher, more hedonistic and ruthless lot. We are the new ‘me generation’.
Men are precious creatures who needed pampering. The need sex on demand, unconditional admiration and forgiveness, fascination with male hobbies etc. They are terrified of their looming pension age. Sixty is the new 18. August 26 走过那十六天的中国人一位旅法钢琴家在自己2008年8月8日的博客中以“活过2008年8月8日的中国人”为题写了一篇文章，文章一开始写道：
2008年8月8日，北京奥运会开幕 革命歌曲居然能处理成ADAGIO，小女孩的歌声让我看到一个新的中国，那是中国的未来，看到我们的主席露出微笑，不知他是否很赞同这个未来。 最后他说： 李宁飞起来接近画卷的时候，我的眼泪抑制不住下来。为什么？ 当然，首先在云上漫步是非常美的创意。 百年兴亡，怎么能不落泪 实在是表达不清楚这一百多年坎坷，这五千年历史的沉淀在今天的释放。 18天后的今天，我回想起那一刻：pg从法国发来短信说Bravo China! Well done!我说我的眼泪已经噙满眼眶——法国人不懂，英国人估计也想不明白——承办一届奥运会，哪怕只是短短十几天，中国人为此能够付出多少，凝聚多少力量。而这一切，只有活过1993年莫斯科、2001年摩纳哥和2008北京的中国人才能体会——深深的自豪和荣耀。这确实是一次沉重的释放！梦圆了…… 星期天和40000伦敦人在白金汉宫门前观看奥运会旗交接仪式的时候，看着大频幕中的五星红旗，耳边奏想的却是God Save the Queen，英国沸腾了。 我不忍这一天到来，正像我16天前不忍8月8日离去…… 过去的一年，我每一刻都和我的那个家在一起。那16天，我的心和目光也不曾离开——山地自行车的一草一木、赛艇比赛的每一缕水纹、帆船比赛中搏击的风浪……还有镜头前一张张熟悉又陌生的笑脸……都饱含着我的眷恋。 这确实是一个深重坚实又多情的民族。我自豪，我感动，我更期待——我是用心、用注视的目光和大家走过那十六天的中国人。 看看妈妈眼中的奥运
August 07 The Routemaster Channel 5前一天晚上还在播放纪录片The Ghosts of the Mary Rose: Revealed，我们第二天就起程前往Portsmouth——也不知道是天意还是pg早有预谋，反正一切就像是那么完美的巧合！
节目里说科学家对船上人员的尸骨作了抽样分析，通过水质分析和确定残留的牙垢的酸碱性的方法判断他们生前生活的地区，从而断定400多年前这艘亨利八世生前最爱的战舰上的勇士们60%都是非英国人。而语言障碍也可能成为导致沉船的元凶。——实在太有意思了！实在等不及去亲眼看看她！
从Waterloo坐一个半小时的火车就来到了Portsmouth，一下车就嗅到空气里海水的味道，咸咸的，是带有些许腥味的咸。远处有帆船，一下子恍然觉得回到了巴塞罗那。Mary Rose在静静地等待了。
城市不大，（不过没去市中心）游人却如织——大家都是为了同时目睹英国800年的皇家海军辉煌前来的吧！从Mary Rose， 到19世纪初的特拉法加战役，（when the British beat the French!）再到19世纪末的HMS Warrior，造船技术日新月异，不变的是英国人在海上的荣耀。
如果说白天是历史之旅——非常具有教育意义的话，那么晚上完全属于当下的物质文明之旅了！
伦敦是一座伟大的城市。知所以这样说，不仅是因为我和小卷同学达成共识的"London is a funny city where you can meet funny people"，更重要的是这里有motivation。pg说Harrods就是最好最奢华的百货公司，他应该经常光顾以确保自己有足够的动力去卖命工作，哪怕只是为儿子那每年28000磅的哈罗公学学费！Knightsbridge有最好的房子，他这辈子恐怕是住不起了，但是“你可以”。Knightsbridge上停满了世界上的顶级跑车，看看车主，几乎没有一个白人！你喜欢Bentley也不算什么，还有Lamborghini。晚饭前就看到一位小弟开着Lamborghini绕着哈罗兹溜达呢，晚饭出来他居然还在溜达……法耶兹一不小心就让Knightbridge变成阿拉伯人血拼得天下了！放眼望去。。。真的是。。。一个。。。英国人。。。都没有！
Berkeley还是最牛的酒店，门口一块招牌都没有，如此低调，格调，腔调。
走过Knightsbridge，穿过Green Park，从女王窗前一闪而过，沿着The Mall，转角到The Strand……我们终于又回到了The City of London，还是得买果汁，还是得过日子。
华灯初上。伦敦，我还是没能看够你。
Call me Jackie...France's First Lady is someone who has lived in the media glare all her life and knows which way to turn to best advantage, in both photographs and interviews.
July 21 I am who I am becouse of everyoneI am my mom
I am my sister
I am my best friend Mike who I've never seen since school
I am Kate who's still somewhere in Thailand
I am all the girls who I've kissed and the girls I will
I am the teacher that failed me
I am my bosses
And everyone of my friend
I am the places I go to with mates and the jokes I share with
I am the people that put me down
And the ones who pick me up
I am who I am because of everyone.
-Orange
今天的我，感谢有你们。
July 18 Finally home 写上几百上千的文字来总结16天的旅程实在是一项浩瀚的工程！还是先长话短说。
先看路线图计划：伦敦-布达佩斯-维也纳-萨尔茨堡-慕尼黑-纽伦堡-雷根斯堡-鹰巢-国王湖-菲森-法兰克福-巴塞罗那-塞维利亚
16天4国连轴转的旅行一辈子只能有一次吧！坐火车赶飞机蹲地铁和船外加超级无敌的双腿。半夜三次换车，被疯老太婆吵醒，15个小时大巴最后还是下错站，塞维利亚今天下午显示的摄氏43度气温让我怎么也想不起在德国菲森14度挨冻的情形！
从一间又一间的青年旅社辗转到火车的大通铺，再到四星级酒店，自己跟自己发誓再也不住youth hostel！——VISA在手刷边全球都手抖（妈妈对不起！穷游其实是腐败游！）
双脚再次踏踏实实地站在Standsted机场UK Border面前，心中只念叨一个字“家”，坐上Standsted Express开始怀念德国的铁路系统——不禁感叹火车真的还是要坐德国的！
原谅我真的不知道从何说起。
一路上的人——
相遇在慕尼黑青年旅社的三个可爱的香港女孩子，希望你们在瑞士玩得还好，21号伦敦见！
在德国去鹰巢车站上问我借书又说"See you up there"的你，还会再次相见吗？照相技术还不赖哟！
甲甲：大学四年我们只长谈过一次，没想到那唯一的一次留在了彼此心里那么久那么久。在巴塞罗那的两天有你真好，登上皇宫看城市夜景的那一刻我永远忘不了。我们俩都晒成黑皮了Oooooooooooooooooo，下次我一定带比基尼，我们再去海滩！
塞维利亚叫不上名的酒吧的餐馆老板：我的西班牙语很烂，你的英语也不见得好，不过你家的东西真的是好吃！
睡意渐浓——到家了！Speak later!
June 29 What gender is your brain?
This is so me!
今晚真的要穿着10cm从七姐妹跑去Chancery Lane吗？ June 25 Everything has a price tagI would like to preface the following post with the fact that I do not believe or think that my situation(s) are any different or "worse" than anyone else's...this is just a particular incident.
There is a fine line between learning and doing. When you are learning, you have to take a look at your position and say to yourself "I'm still learning and that opportunity is far greater than anything monetary".
Now, when you are doing... pay me.
Without getting the specific details, I strongly feel in my mind, body, soul that personally and honestly, I'm about to reach a crossroad that may define the next crucial years of my life.
Time, energy, passion, emotion, love, happiness, drive, ambition, determination, creativity, survival...Everything has a price tag. The question is, who will you rely on to provide you for the money to pay for it? Or, do you need one?
June 23 So, Sally can wait Noel Gallagher (from Uncut magazine August 2007): "We were in Paris playing with The Verve, and I had the chords for that song and started writing it. We were due to play 2 days later. Our first-ever big arena gig, it's called Sheffield Arena now. At the sound check, I was strumming away on the acoustic guitar, and our kid (Liam Gallagher) said, 'What's that you're singin'?" I wasn't singing anyway, I was just making it up. And our kid said, 'Are you singing 'So Sally can wait'.'' And I was like - that's genius! So I started singing, 'So Sally can wait.' I remember going back to the dressing room and writing it out. It all came really quickly after that. 'Don't Look Back In Anger' just popped out. We wrote the words out in the dressing room, and we actually played it that night, in front of 18,000 other people. On acoustic guitar. Sat on a stool. Like an idiot. I never do that now.
第一次听到这首歌应该是在去年夏天，后来这首歌在我的MP3里和Yellow呆了一阵子。直到星期五在酒吧再次听到她，仿佛过电一般。以前没有注意过歌词，只是觉得旋律和Oasis的演绎尤其主唱沙哑的嗓音太美，一种慑人心魄的力量，毫无征兆地让人泪流满面-自己也说不出为什么。我没有怎么感慨自己的“青葱岁月”
Of the character "Sally" referred to in the song he commented, "I don't actually know anybody called Sally. It's just a word that fitted, y'know, might as well throw a girl's name in there. It's gotta guarantee somebody a shag off a bird called Sally, hasn't it?".
我们每个人都可能是Sally who knows it's too late but can wait.
瑶，你说我们追求的东西是永远得不到的，只会越来越近，每天接近一点，但就是永远得不到。真的永恒了，有一天我们也会厌倦。一方面乞求永恒，一方面厌倦重复，我们拥有不安分的灵魂。
我感觉这首歌在礼拜五晚上重新出现在我的生活中，让我以后每次听到她回想起你，想起我们，回望过去时多一份坦然，不要抱怨。
很老的歌了，我很吃惊你在高中的时候就听到过，并且那么爱！我想我那时候不可能完全懂。如今看MV，看Live，不知道多少人听过，多少人感动过，多少人跟着哼唱、疯狂，甚至是手舞足蹈过。
瑶，现在你在那头，我在这端，但地理从未将我们阻隔——我们可以听同一首歌，看同一部电影，念同一本书，感受同一种心境……没有比这些更美的了。高中毕业时我们约定将来一定还出来喝茶、喝咖啡、聊天，一直到头发花白牙齿掉光的。We are working on it now。要说永恒，这大概是我可以奢望的永恒吧！如果这样的话，我们一直等下去吧！We can wait, can't we?
June 16 I f**ked it upEverybody like a bit of romance, I go for simple things - flowers and chocolates, a dinner and chat-up-lines sometimes, that does it for me. Maybe diamonds one day, but text messages and emails for the moment! Well, a little confession for now - everything I do, I do it wrong. Relationships, in particular. For T, Texted 4 times, skyped twice - your voice mail says "I will back to you" - So when? No to mention for P,sending an e-card to who has get crush on me - on the Father's Day - Well, you are not that old - just about my father's age you know, and your 14-year-old son is just as fantastic as you are! "Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous." Says Carrie. Fine, let's see what happens! The deadline is 21:00 GMT 16 June, 2008 Can't you just treat yourself nicely and show some respect? Be a big girl! Hang out with friends, spend some time reading and support Germany tonight. For god's sake!! June 13 明天我们好好过窗外阳光很好 - 上海入梅了。
Kelly到了上海，报了平安。在家和大学室友叙旧呢。
Ian说:Hey don't get bored on the bus!I'm walking home I'll practice and revise b4 bed I think. Yes I see your fun side...
Philip说：Could we possibly revise the pinyin initials and finals next time we meet please?
燕燕使出全力让我开心
倩说：还是学习吧
Stephanie还穿着高跟鞋一步裙吗？
隔壁的丫头下个星期就要回家结婚了，过期杂志、闲书堆了一客厅 - 还不知道以后要怎么想念你呢！
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谁也不想长大，谁也不觉得自己长大了。但如果有一天必须要长大呢？
还是做自己比较心安理得，如果怎么都等不来的话 - 我想是这样。
我长那么大第一次那么悉心地照看花花，就像对待一个刚出生的孩子 - 每天浇水，过几个小时就要去瞅一眼，恨不得见证她的每一个细微的变化 - 花花开了，要茁壮成长！可是隔壁的薰衣草怎么就没有动静呢？！- I nourish the hope :)
Trainspotting - 深刻的追求or 英国youth culture“Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career.Choose a family. Choose a big fucking television,choose washingmachines, cars, compact disk players and electrical tinopeners...choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sundaymorning. Choose sitting on the couch, watching mind-numbing,spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing junk food into yourmouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all,pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than anembarassment to the selfish, fucked-up brats you spawned to replaceyourself. Choose your future. Choose life.” “This is the last of this sort of thing. I'm cleaning up and I'm moving on, going straight and choosing life. I'm looking forward to it already. I'm going to be just like you: the job, the family, the fucking big television, the washing machine, the car, the compact disc and electrical tin opener, good health, low cholesterol, dental insurance, mortgage, starter home, leisurewear, luggage, three-piece suite, DIY, game shows, junk food, children, walks in the park, nine to five, good at golf, washing the car, choice of sweaters, family Christmas, indexed pension, tax exemption, clearing the gutters, getting by, looking ahead, to the day you die. ” 这是《猜火车》一头一尾两段独白。单单影片的名字就很有看头。有很多人认为是一个pun：trainspotting是一种游戏- 无所事事的人在火车经过的地方即兴打赌猜下一班火车经过的时刻和目的地，从而打法无聊时间。同时它又是俚语，在胳膊上寻找血管以注射毒品。以此作为一部反映爱丁堡混混青年生存现状影片的名字确实非常值得人回味。除了苏格兰口音让我听觉备受考验之外，影片可以说堪称完美。 看这部影片的时候有一个人的形象总也挥之不去。对了Philip, the one.坚定的共产主义者，straight, 中学伊顿公学、剑桥大学神学政治学毕业，唾弃物质，反天伦，基本无业。他何以选择远离这个岛，去多伦多开始新的人生，和一个男人。很大程度上由于无法忍受英国的青年文化。当然这是个案，小子有点走极端。 如今的牛剑到底在培养什么样的人？是同样学政治的Steph，大学学希伯来语的Anna，还是学历史、念法学的Tom？这是一代怎样的英国人?这是一代怎样的我们呢？或许到头来我们还是不得不回到起点：可以表现得含蓄，可还是免不了“有欲望”；我们可以看上去优雅实际上恶俗。 我们有深刻的追求；我们选择，我们不选择。 The world is changing, music is changing, even drugs are changing. You can't stay in here all day dreaming about heroin and Ziggy Pop. 以下引用： 青春的意义就是一种虚掷，一种否定， 而圆熟的过程是一种务实，一种修正。
否定的否定却不是肯定，生活不是数学 背叛的背叛也不是回归，什么都会变，包括结论。 因为什么都会变，所以一切置疑都有意义。 一切置疑后人们都会找到他们的真理，也许不是真理，而是近似真理。 真理让人安宁，不是吗？如同坟墓。每个人都奔向它。 June 07 The Hidden Purpose of Chat-up Lines （转载）New research suggests men's choice of chat-up line may help quickly select for women with particular personalities.
When it comes to the human mating game, men are often portrayed as having little power or guile. Research finds it is women that control early interactions, from first signalling the man to approach to deciding whether to engage in sex. One area in which men are popularly seen as especially inept is in their choice of chat-up lines. Leading the field in crass openings are sexually-loaded remarks.
Indeed, a study by Chris Bale from the University of Central Lancashire found that sexually-loaded remarks were the type of openers least likely to lead to further interaction (Bale, 2006). Which begs the question: why do men still use them? Chat-up lines as selection toolAn ingeniously simple answer is suggested by both Bale (2006) and Cooper et al. (2007), with some evidence to back it up. Chat-up lines may be a way for men to select for a particular type of woman. In other words, men using sexually-loaded remarks are looking for a certain type of woman (an easy one). Similarly, at the other end of the scale, men who use character-revealing or culture-based openers are probably trying to show they are a good mate looking for a long-term partner. That's the theory and here's how Cooper and colleagues searched for evidence. The study first asked participants to consider a series of scenarios in which men tried to strike up a conversation with a woman. In each the man used a different type of approach. Participants were then asked to rate how likely it was the conversation would continue on the basis of that opener. These 'lines' were collated from a variety of sources and clustered into the following categories:
So, now we know, generally speaking, how our female participants react to these four broad types of male approaches. Next we need to find out what types of men the female participants prefer. Four types of menFor this they complete the Dating Partner Preference Test. An analysis of these results suggests women see men as generally falling into one of four types:
Along with these vignettes and the Dating Partner Preference Test, participants were asked to fill in personality measures of their psychoticism (tendency for inappropriate emotional responses and recklessness), extraversion (being outgoing, gregarious, externally oriented) and neuroticism (the tendency to experience negative emotional states). Now we've got all the information we need to see if there's any connection. ResultsLooking at the correlations shows there is support for the idea that chat-up lines select for women with particular personalities.
It does seem, then, that the type of chat-up lines men choose does have a measurable effect on the types of women who respond to them. This can effectively allow men to make a quick assessment of a woman's personality by their response to a particular type of approach. Those looking for a 'bad mate' might use a sexually-loaded remark or a compliment, while those wanting an extrovert should use a joke. Men's perceptions of women's linesI have focussed on women's perceptions of male chat-up lines as in most cultures it's mostly the men using the lines, although this is changing. Perhaps to reflect this men's perceptions of women's chat-up lines were also included in this study. The results for men's perceptions showed that in comparison to women, men were more likely to prefer chat-up lines involving sex (surprise surprise!) as opposed to women who preferred humour. Men also tended to be worse than women at judging what types of chat-up lines women prefer. The types of chat-up lines whose effectiveness was under-estimated by men were those involving offers of help to women, handing control of the interaction to women and (subtly) displaying wealth (surprise surprise!). Caution
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